I feel a rant coming on.
I checked out Adoption Under One Roof [see link at side, I'm too mad to hyperlink] and saw a story about Tom Cruise having to defend his adopted children. He has tabloids saying all the time that he loves his biological child more than his older adopted kids. Grrrrr!!
I am no huge Tom Cruise fan. I think Scientology is nutty and he needs to hush up about it.
However, he doesn't deserve to be hassled over his love for his children. That's hitting below the belt. That's scummy, sleazy, despicable journalism.
I checked out a cute blog called Mama's Losin It and she has some fun writing prompts. I chose #3, I'll be happy when__________.
I'll be happy when journalists stop distinguishing between bio and adopted celebrity children. Rosie O'Donnell, Tom Cruise, Jamie Lee Curtis - why can't journalists refer to their children without using the word "adopted"? Why does the word "adopted" have to be inserted? I guarantee you, this irritates them as much as it does me.
I never realized until I became a mom that I could or would love my adopted daughter as much as a bio child but God, in his infinite wisdom, showed me differently. He showed me that your heart can and WILL love a child 100%, without reservations, regardless of whether or not that child came from your body. Every parent I know with adopted and bio kids will tell you this same thing. You love each child because they are YOURS. Biology doesn't mean diddly. [If you hear an adoptive parent say differently they have no business being a parent at all, IMHO.]
Maybe I didn't go through the discomfort of carrying my kids in my body, I have to admit that, but I carried them in my heart for way more than 9 months. I spent many uncomfortable hours scrambling to find the money to adopt them, stuffed into uncomfortable airplane seats [20 hours each way for Alesia's 3 trips, 14 hours for Michael's two trips], lost a LOT of sleep, and, on top of everything else, had to contend with people telling me I was crazy to adopt older kids. Pregnant women rarely have to deal with that nonsense.
[You want to know more? Read Adopting Alesia: My Crusade for My Russian Daughter. [No, this rant is not just to push the book.]
No, a child is a child is a child, whether they share your DNA or not. The heart doesn't make two kinds of love, bio and adopted. The heart knows only that love is love, and a child is a child. If I accomplish nothing else in my life, if I can cause one naysayer to recognize the truth of that, I will feel I've accomplished something.
I love my kids as much as one human can love another. What's even more beautiful is that they love each other.
Tom Cruise, you tell those tabloid journalists to go to hell. They're idiots.
