We've had a nice day. I got up and watered and fertilized all the back gardens, thinking it's going to be a hot, dry day, and of course, tonight we had torrential rain and thunderstorms. We needed the rain.
We went to Kroger around noon, and had a late lunch.
Mike spotted a box of eclairs on sale in the Kroger bakery and asked if he could get them, and I said fine. We have had such an excruciatingly painful week that for the moment, I cannot deal much with thinking about food. I am not going crazy with food, but I am not trying to diet either.
Adding or subtracting people is a painful business. Family dynamics shift. With Alesia gone, I have to re-orient my thinking. I am now a parent of one child. It takes some getting used to.
We had lunch at Eduardo's, a favorite place. Mother hadn't been in there in a while, although we get takeout food there too, fairly often.
My friend Judy posted this story link to a NY Times article about adopted kids reuniting with birthparents via Facebook. I don't see anything wrong with that. The days of hiding adoption should end. Every study I've read shows that kids who have some knowledge of their birth families and understand about their adoptions grow up more secure and mentally healthy. Secrets just lead to more issues.
I almost wish Alesia's birthmom could be involved, if only just to try and talk some sense into her about the choices she's making right now.
